100 Questions To Know Your Partner Take off the mask, and be the real you!

Ever noticed that when you first meet someone, you always put your best foot forward? There's certainly nothing wrong with that, as long as it's the real you!

Nobody wants to later feel like "I can't believe that they feel that way" So while you're in the "getting to know you" phase, here's some great and intimate questions to spur conversation and honesty.

100 QUESTIONS FOR COUPLES

1.What was the first thing that attracted you about me?

2.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?

3.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?

4.Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?

5.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man?

6.If I don't say so, how do you know that I want to make love?

7.Describe the way I smell.

8.Tell me how you describe me to other people?

9.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

10.Do you masturbate?

11.How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?

12.When was the last time you took a shower together?

13.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?

14.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?

15.What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?

16.After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?

17.Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?

18.How old were you when you had your first kiss?

19.How old were you the first time you had sex?

20.How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?

21.Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?

22.Did you parents tell you about sex, or did you already know?

23.Describe your parents marriage. What was the best part and the worst part in your opinion?

24.Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel?

25.What animals do you like and not like?

26.Describe your perfect dream date.

27.Describe your perfect wedding.

28.Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.

29.What is the most important thing that money can do for you?

30.Who had control of the money when you were growing up?

31.How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?

32.Do you believe in God?

33.If money were no object, what is the one thing that would be most important to you to do?

34.If you had one day to live, what would you do?

35.If you won the lottery, what would you like to accomplish?

36.If you gave money to charity, which ones would you choose and why?

37.Have you ever been cruel to an animal?

38.When you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child?

39.Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused?

40.Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems?

41.Who is the person you admire most and why?

42.What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?

43.How important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?

44.Who do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?

45.How do you feel about having children?

46.Describe your philosophy on personal debt.

47.What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?

48.If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?

49.Who do you feel responsible for in your life?

50.What are you beliefs about abortion?

51.How important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship?

52.Tell me when you first knew you loved me?

53.How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?

54.How do you think divorce affects the couple involved?

55.What do you think should determine when a couple has a child?

56.How do you plan to handle the aging of your parents?

57.If you died today, how would you like your final arrangements handled?

58.What do you think happens to you when you die?

59.If you were going to write a book, what would it be about?

60.Where is the one place that you want to go and why?

61.If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?

62.If you won the lottery, would you continue working?

63.Do you feel that you have ever shown prejudice to another person?

64.Who is your very best friend and why?

65.How did you choose the career you are in?

66.What is one thing that could happen that would make your day?

67.List things that constitute self care.

68.What is the most unselfish thing that you think you have ever done?

69.Do you believe in ghosts?

70.What would you want people to say about you after you had passed away?

71.What is your goal for the next 12 months? How do you plan to reach it?

72.Do you feel that you have enough education?

73.What was the biggest mistake you think you ever made and how did it change your life?

74.If you found someone's wallet, what would you do with it?

75.Do you feel that one partner in a couple should be able to vacation alone?

76.What is important in a marriage to you?

77.What led up to your decision to get married? Why did you decide the time and person were right?

78.What is the last book you read? What was the most important reason for reading that book?

79.Do you think that taking a pen or scratch pad home from work is stealing?

80.Do you have a sexual fantasy that you haven't acted out?

81.Have you ever experimented with someone of the same sex? What is your opinion of homosexuality?

82.Do you vote for the same party every election? Why?

83.When you are depressed, what do you do or how do you act? What do you do to overcome the depression?

84.Have you ever achieved a New Year's resolution?

85.Who has the primary responsibility in marriage for raising the children?

86.What is the one thing that you'd like to change about yourself?

87.Have I ever embarrassed you?

88.If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?

89.What is the biggest regret in your life?

90.What is the biggest "known" secret in your family that nobody talks about?

91.What was your favorite age to be and why?

92.Do you believe that couples should keep separate bank accounts ? Who controls the money?

93.What do you do to make your partner happy that you don't particularly like to do?

94.What is something that I do sexually that you like and don't think that I do often enough?

95.What age do you think people are old and how do you think that changes their lives?

96.Do you think it is sometimes necessary to put aging parents in nursing homes?

97.Do you think that animals have souls?

98.If you could ask me one question, what would that be?

99.How do you know when I'm mad?

100.What is the one thing that you think that I could do that would hurt you the worst?

101.What do I cook that you are tired of?

102.If I were to cook something to surprise you, what would you like it to be?

103.What did you think the first time you met my mother and father?

104.After divorce, what do you think that parents could do to make the transition easier on the children?

105.Do you think that children of divorce are more likely to later be the victim of divorce?

106.How long do you think a person should spend alone between relationship?

107.Do you think men love differently than women?

108.If you are a man, what is the one thing that you think it would be important for a woman to know about men or vice versa!

109.Do you think marriage counseling works and why or why not?

110.Define love?

111.Describe yourself if you can't use profession/marital status?

112.What is the most important thing in your life?

113.What are you most ashamed of and why?

114.Do you believe that an internet affair is actually an affair?

115.Have you ever dated a married man/woman?

116.How would you describe your moral values?

117.How do you think you teach children moral values?

118.Who should talk to the children about sex and when?

119.What part do you think that you play in a child's education?

120.What is your opinion of paying child support and/or alimony?

121.What do you think makes successful people successful?

122.What is the first memory you have?

123.Did you have a pet growing up and which was your favorite?

124.What is the thing that you fear most?

125.What would change in your life if you had total responsibility for your life and could never blame anyone else for anything?

126.What is the one thing that you wish that I would tell you?

127.When do you think that it is OK to keep a secret and why?

128.Do you believe that there are degrees of a lie?

129. How do you feel about romantic destinations as a part of your lifestyle?

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一、懂你懂我

1.我哪一點(diǎn)最吸引你？

7.描述一下我的味道。

8.私下你是如何向別人描述我的？

15.你第一次吻我之前在想些什么？

16.我第一次把你約出來(lái)的時(shí)候你考慮過(guò)拒絕我嗎？

17.我們第一次面對(duì)對(duì)方裸體的時(shí)候，你有擔(dān)心過(guò)什么嗎？

18.初吻時(shí)是幾歲？

19.初夜是何時(shí)？

20.初戀時(shí)你多大？

47.我做過(guò)的哪件事很讓你生氣？

52.告訴我，你是何時(shí)發(fā)覺(jué)愛(ài)上我的？

87.我使你難堪過(guò)嗎？

88.如果你能夠改變我的一個(gè)方面，那會(huì)是什么呢？

98.如果你打算問(wèn)我一個(gè)問(wèn)題，你會(huì)問(wèn)什么？

99.你是如何察覺(jué)我在生氣的？

100.你覺(jué)得我能夠傷害你最深的一件事會(huì)是什么？

101.我做的哪道菜你已經(jīng)吃厭了？

102.如果我想在餐桌上給你一個(gè)驚喜，你希望是哪道菜呢？

二、耳鬢廝磨

2.你認(rèn)為是性還是感情維持著一段完美的戀情？

13.如果你的朋友偷腥，你覺(jué)得你應(yīng)該告訴他的伴侶嗎？

14.如果你的朋友偷腥，你會(huì)讓他的伴侶知道嗎？

21.你的第一次約會(huì)是在哪位“老師”的指導(dǎo)下完成的？

26.描述一下你心中完美的約會(huì)。

42.什么會(huì)讓你慧劍斬情絲？

44.你認(rèn)為在戀愛(ài)中誰(shuí)會(huì)占主導(dǎo)地位，為什么？

75.一個(gè)人去度假，另一個(gè)人獨(dú)自在家，你會(huì)怎么想？

107.你認(rèn)為男人的愛(ài)與女人的愛(ài)是不同的嗎？

108.作為男性（女性），你認(rèn)為女性（男性）最有必要知道的是什么？

110.給愛(ài)情下個(gè)定義。

114.網(wǎng)戀算是真正的戀愛(ài)嗎？

115.你約過(guò)有夫之?huà)D（有婦之夫）嗎？

129.浪漫的度假作為你生活方式的一部分，你有何感受？

三、兩性話題

3.當(dāng)你看到一個(gè)女性，你最先注意的是她的哪一部位？

4.你覺(jué)得熱戀中還繼續(xù)關(guān)注其他女人是否不妥？婚后會(huì)有所改變嗎？

5.當(dāng)你看到一個(gè)男性，你最先注意的是他的哪一部位？

6.我不說(shuō)，你又是如何知道我想親熱呢？

9.你認(rèn)為多長(zhǎng)時(shí)間親熱一回算是不頻繁��？

10.你自慰嗎？

11.你用洗手間的時(shí)候我的進(jìn)入會(huì)讓你作何感想？

12.我們最近洗一次鴛鴦浴是什么時(shí)候？

28.做過(guò)春夢(mèng)吧？說(shuō)說(shuō)看。

38.當(dāng)你還小屁孩的時(shí)候，與異性小朋友有過(guò)重口味接觸嗎？

80.你還有什么尚未實(shí)現(xiàn)的性幻想嗎？

81.嘗試過(guò)與同性親熱嗎？談?wù)勀銓?duì)同性戀的看法。

94.做愛(ài)時(shí)你最想要我的哪一招？

四、談婚論嫁

27.你心中完美的婚禮是什么樣子的？

43.你認(rèn)為一夫一妻制很重要嗎？

45.婚后會(huì)要孩子嗎？

50.你對(duì)墮胎的看法是？

51.宗教信仰對(duì)婚姻影響很大嗎？

54.離婚對(duì)于夫婦雙方有何影響？

55.什么因素會(huì)讓你決定要一個(gè)孩子？

76.婚姻對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)最重要的是什么？

77.什么因素會(huì)讓你決定結(jié)婚？你又是如何確定人選和時(shí)機(jī)的？

85.婚后誰(shuí)來(lái)管孩子？

92.你認(rèn)為夫妻雙方應(yīng)該財(cái)政獨(dú)立嗎？或者誰(shuí)來(lái)掌握經(jīng)濟(jì)大權(quán)？

104.離婚后，你認(rèn)為父母該做些什么去讓孩子適應(yīng)？

105.你認(rèn)為孩子是離婚的受害者嗎？

106.婚姻中個(gè)人該有多少獨(dú)處的時(shí)間？

109.你認(rèn)為婚姻咨詢服務(wù)有效嗎？為什么？

117.你會(huì)如何培養(yǎng)孩子的道德價(jià)值觀？

118.誰(shuí)該對(duì)孩子進(jìn)行性啟蒙？當(dāng)孩子多大時(shí)呢？

119.你認(rèn)為自身該在孩子的教育中扮演怎樣的角色？

120.你對(duì)用在孩子身上的開(kāi)銷有何看法？

五、贍養(yǎng)父母

22.你父母對(duì)你做過(guò)性啟蒙嗎？或者你自學(xué)的？

23.說(shuō)說(shuō)你父母的婚姻。你感覺(jué)最美好和最糟糕的分別是哪一部分？

30.你父母撫養(yǎng)你的時(shí)候，你家誰(shuí)管錢？

56.你打算如何贍養(yǎng)年老的父母？

93.你不經(jīng)意做的哪件事最讓父母開(kāi)心？

96.你覺(jué)得有必要間或把父母送進(jìn)養(yǎng)老院?jiǎn)幔?/p>

103.你第一次見(jiàn)我父母時(shí)有什么感想？

六、生老病死

24.你親友中誰(shuí)最先過(guò)世？說(shuō)說(shuō)你那時(shí)的感受。

34.如果你的生命只剩下一天，你會(huì)如何度過(guò)？

57.如果你今天就會(huì)死去，你打算如何安排自己的葬禮？

58.你覺(jué)得死亡時(shí)會(huì)發(fā)生什么？

67.列舉一下有關(guān)自我保健的事物。

70.你希望死后人們對(duì)你的評(píng)價(jià)是什么？

91.最想活在哪一歲？為什么？

95.你認(rèn)為人在哪一歲開(kāi)始衰老？它又是如何改變?nèi)藗兩�活的�?/p>

七、雜七雜八

25.你喜歡什么動(dòng)物，不喜歡什么？

29.你認(rèn)為錢最重要的功能是？

31.你是如何學(xué)到作為男性（女性）所應(yīng)具備的品質(zhì)的？

32.你相信神嗎？

33.如果金錢不再是目標(biāo)，你最大的追求會(huì)是什么？

35.如果你中了彩票，會(huì)去做什么呢？

36.如果你打算為慈善事業(yè)捐款，你會(huì)捐給哪一協(xié)會(huì)（工程）？

37.是否虐待過(guò)動(dòng)物？

39.你曾被性虐待（心理虐待、辱罵）過(guò)嗎？

40.可以告訴我支持你的信念的是什么嗎？

41.你最欣賞誰(shuí)？為什么？

46.談?wù)勀阍趥�(gè)人債務(wù)方面的行為準(zhǔn)則。

48.當(dāng)你陷入困境時(shí)會(huì)向誰(shuí)請(qǐng)教？

49.你認(rèn)為誰(shuí)在為你生活負(fù)責(zé)？

53.你是如何壓住怒火的？它造成過(guò)麻煩嗎？

59.如果你打算寫(xiě)本書(shū)，你會(huì)寫(xiě)些什么呢？

60.你現(xiàn)在最想去哪兒？為什么？

61.如果可能，你最想住在哪兒？為什么？

62.如果你中了彩票，還會(huì)繼續(xù)上班嗎？

63.當(dāng)你對(duì)某人有偏見(jiàn)時(shí)，你是怎么想的？

64.你最好的朋友是誰(shuí)？為什么？

65.你是如何選擇現(xiàn)在這項(xiàng)事業(yè)的？

66.現(xiàn)實(shí)一點(diǎn)的說(shuō)，什么事情會(huì)讓你快樂(lè)一整天？

68.你做過(guò)的最無(wú)私的是哪件事？

69.你相信世上有鬼嗎？

71.你今后12個(gè)月中的目標(biāo)是什么？打算如何實(shí)現(xiàn)？

72.你對(duì)自己的受教育程度滿意嗎？

73.你曾犯下的最大的錯(cuò)誤是什么？它是如何改變你人生的？

74.如果你撿到一個(gè)錢包，你會(huì)怎么做？

78.最近讀了哪本書(shū)？閱讀它主要的原因是什么？

79.你認(rèn)為把辦公室的筆或便箋本帶回家算偷竊嗎？

83.當(dāng)你感到沮喪時(shí)，你會(huì)做些什么，行為會(huì)因此有何不同？你又是如何克服沮喪的呢？

84.是否實(shí)現(xiàn)過(guò)年初制定的目標(biāo)？

86.希望改變自己的什么？

89.你人生中最后悔的事是？

90.你家最大的“公開(kāi)的秘密”是？

97.你認(rèn)為動(dòng)物有靈魂嗎？

111.不涉及職業(yè)和婚姻的狀況，描述一下你自己。

112.你人生中最重要的事是？

113.最讓你感到羞恥的事是什么？為什么？

116.簡(jiǎn)述一下你自己的道德價(jià)值觀。

121.促使成功人士成功的因素有哪些？談?wù)勛约旱囊?jiàn)解。

122.你生命中最早的記憶是什么？

123.你養(yǎng)大過(guò)寵物嗎？最愛(ài)哪一只？

124.你最害怕什么？

125.如果你得獨(dú)自為自己的生活負(fù)責(zé)，不能指望任何人，你的生活會(huì)發(fā)生哪些變化？

126.你最希望我向你坦白什么？

127.你認(rèn)為何時(shí)該保守秘密？為什么？

128.你認(rèn)為謊言有度嗎？